#ghosted….How To Take Advantage At Your Job

#ghosted….How To Take Advantage At Your Job

#ghosted….How To Take Advantage At Your Job

That’s really a thing now!

“People who ghost are primarily focused on avoiding their own emotional discomfort and they aren’t thinking about how it makes the other person feel.” – Jennice Vilhauer, Psychology Today

Workplace Ghosting Helps You Stand Out

11:00 a.m. and her desk is empty. Usually she’s in by 9:00.

By 1:00 p.m., the vacant desk has become like the elephant in the living room. Everyone knows what’s going on, but nobody’s yet been willing to say so out loud.

At the end of the workday, you gather up your belongings and head home, knowing the desk won’t be occupied tomorrow either. Because she ghosted.

Your co-worker quit without a word.

Amazing, isn’t it? That someone with a decent job would simply disappear.

But they did….They ghosted their job

Ghosting by employees is on the rise.

People stop showing up for work without warning. They fail to appear for a job interview they committed to, and are never heard from again. Or they accept a job offer then vanish.

Some people ghost because they want to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. Social media has undoubtedly contributed to the ghosting phenomenon: people feel distanced    from others; have fewer authentic connections; and fail to completely grasp the effect of their actions.

When, for example, you dash off an angry email or flame someone on Facebook, you never have to deal with their very human reactions. Over time, this can desensitize you and cause your empathy to degrade.

But ghosting also represents a shift in the balance of power from employers to employees. A tight labor market favors job-seekers, who have endured years of being treated by employers as a commodity.

As well, prospective employers have been ghosting job candidates for so long that it’s become almost acceptable. At least employees think ghosting is fine for them now too; the HR firm Clutch in 2018 found that “ More than 40% of job seekers say it’s reasonable to ghost companies during the interview process, abruptly cutting off communication when they decide not to pursue a job.”

But You Can Be A Stand-Out

When your co-worker ghosts, you have an opportunity to shine. To be clear, this doesn’t mean you bash the person who’s ghosted as a means of sucking up to your boss. But there are steps you can take to reinforce your standing:

○     Show empathy; sometimes you simply need to listen and express your support for your teammates and your boss, who are likely to be experiencing a range of emotions.

○     Be proactive; suggest how the work left behind by the ghosting person could be re-assigned and effectively completed, for example.

○     Take time for self-reflection; you’re probably experiencing your own reactions and need some time to settle.

I believe workplace ghosting can leave a trail of agitation and fear in its wake. If you can be the one to stand firm and calm others, you’ll distinguish yourself as a leader in the workplace.

Elevate Yourself With These Tips

Given the rise of ghosting, your current or prospective employer may feel cynical or suspicious. Since you don’t want to be viewed as a potential ghosthere’s what you can do to ensure your integrity is intact:

○     Keep your job interview commitments. If you agree to show up, then let nothing short of an emergency keep you from being there. If you must change your plans, communicate so clearly and suggest a couple of other dates and times that you’re available. Be willing to work with the interviewer’s schedule.

○     Show up for work at the time and place you’ve committed to. Even if you hate your job. Even if you found one you like better. Show up and give your notice. Or if you’re staying home sick, call in and say so. Don’t leave anyone guessing your whereabouts.

○     If you accept a job offer, then decide you’d rather bow out, call and say so. Yes, it will feel uncomfortable, but you don’t have to go into a long detailed explanation. You can simply say thanks, and I’ve changed my mind.

○     Always do your best, as Don Miguel Ruiz says in his powerful book The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide To Personal Freedom. “Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”

Committing yourself to these actions shows you’re a professional who values herself and others.

Take a No Ghost Stance

 At some point during your professional life, you may decide to quit a job or turn down one you initially thought you wanted. These decisions are common.

And yes, having a conversation with your boss or prospective employer can be uncomfortable.

But you’re a person of integrity.

When you stand firm in your integrity, you grow your self-confidence as a serious professional.

So make a vow to yourself not to ghost and elevate your career.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog.




For Hire! Educated and Unemployed Millennials

For Hire! Educated and Unemployed Millennials

“I was surprised by how high (unemployment) is for millennials…Unemployment is becoming a youth problem” – Andrew Hanson, research analyst at Georgetown University

It’s a day like any other.

You get up, pour your first cup of coffee, and hold your breath while you scan through your email.

Maybe this is the morning.

The one where you hear back about one of the jobs you applied for.

Just one…please, just one.

But it’s not to be. Not this morning, anyway.

You heave a sigh, take another sip of coffee, and resign yourself to sending more applications into what seems to be a black hole.

Don’t they have to hire someone? Why can’t that someone be you?

Though unemployment is high among millennials, there’s a way you can give yourself an edge. I’ll show you how.

Let’s dive in.

There’s A Reason Many Millennials Are Unemployed

If you were born between 1981 and 1996 , you’re considered one of the millennial generation. There are a lot of you; over 83 million, more than one-quarter of the US population. More even than the baby boomers!

According to a special report compiled by the Economist magazine, millennials are “the brainiest, best-educated generation ever”. About 61% of you have attended college, in comparison to 46% of baby boomers.

This doesn’t seem like a problem at first. On the contrary, it sounds very positive.

However, your college degree now feels worth about as much as your high school diploma because the supply of educated workers is much higher than the demand for them in the workforce. As many as 39 percent of people under 25 are either unemployed or underemployed.

U.S. census data shows that 40 percent of our nation’s unemployed are millennials.

In other words, it’s not your fault if finding a job has been tough.

Don’t Be Daunted By High Unemployment Statistics

First, I want you to flip your perspective: 40 percent unemployed means 60 percent employed.

While it’s easy for your focus to be drawn to the unemployed number when you’re bombarded with by media reports day after day, when you choose to acknowledge the employed figure, you’ve already started strengthening your mindset and intent.

And a positive mindset is one of your most important tools for successfully finding work.

Each day, take time to deliberately focus on the positive aspects of your life. Sit for a few minutes and write a list of what’s right in your world. You’ll find over time that keeping yourself in an optimistic outlook will enhance your job search, leading you to being open to new ideas and inspirations.

Get Clear On What You Love To Do

Rather than looking for just any job, get clear on what you really love to do.

I get it if you’ve got to take a job to pay the bills. If you do, acknowledge to yourself that it’s a bridge to something you truly love, so that you don’t end up feeling stuck and hopeless

You’ll find a number of tools you can use In my book, Happiness, Passion, and Purpose,A step by step guide on how to nourish the patterns of your life into the job you will love and land it!

Here are a couple of them:

Campbell Interest and Skill Survey:

The Campbell Interest and Skill Survey (CISS) measures self-reported vocational interests and skills. Like traditional interest inventories, the CISS interest scales reflect an individual’s attraction for specific occupational areas.

Strong Interest Inventory

The Strong Interest Inventory (SII) is a popular career assessment tool. Psychologist Edward Kellog Strong, Jr. developed the test in 1927 to help soldiers transitioning out of the military find jobs. Despite it being nearly a century old, it’s still quite relevant today.

You can also get direct, hands-on experience. One way people often overlook is to take a job through a temporary placement agency. This is a low-risk way to explore a career without a major commitment, yet while getting paid.

As well, another option is to volunteer in a field which interests you. This is a great way to test the waters and gain valuable skills. You’ll often receive useful training that will support your skill development. Another upside is that your volunteer work could become long-term employment since you have an edge on any opening that may arise in the organization.

Now Find An Underserved Niche

Once you’ve landed on a profession that interests you, do some research to find specific niches within that profession that are underserved.

For example, if you want to be a fitness coach, coaching seniors is a niche that’s currently in demand.

Other careers that in general are underserved, are:

●     Personal financial advisor

●     Counselor, therapist, social worker

●     Scientists

●     Mathematicians

What niches might you discover within these fields that need you, and which you’d love?

You Can Give Yourself An Advantage

It sucks to apply for job after job and hear nothing back.

Like wandering through a barren desert shouting for help.

But you don’t have to go through each day feeling discouraged.

Now that you know the steps to give you an advantage, you can turn around your search in your favor. Not only will you feel more optimistic, your optimism will overflow into and enhance the rest of your life.

You’ll feel more cheerful. You know the right career is out there for you; it’s simply a matter of harnessing the power of your focus and intent.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog.