3 Steps to Your Inner Career Alchemist

3 Steps to Your Inner Career Alchemist

Tap Into Your Inner Career Alchemist

“If you want to be successful in this world you have to follow your passion, not a paycheck” – Jen Welter, the NFL’s first female coach

You want a career you love, you want to follow your passion, but you don’t even know what it is. How do you figure out this whole passionate career thing when your fears have you stuck like a rat in a trap and you’re so frustrated you want to bang your head on your desk?

You sigh.

Then, not for the first time, you resign yourself to a career that’s okay but doesn’t really juice you.

Take heart.

You might not realize it, but you’re an alchemist.

Yes, you!

Because you can transform those fears and frustrations into gold; the insights and awareness to create your passionate career.

I am going to show you how…..

  1. Shift Your Perspective

If you went into a clothing store believing there won’t be anything you like, or if there is, it’s not likely to be in your size; or, even if there is, it will be too expensive – you’ve set yourself up for failure from the get go.

The same goes for finding your passion. If you believe your fears are too strong, too deeply ingrained to move past or see the value in them, you’ve already closed yourself off from the possibility of discovering your passionate career.

We get what we think about. So, when you reframe your thinking to tell yourself, “Won’t it be nice when I discover the career story my fears are telling me?”, you move from closed to curious. Being curious allows insights to flow to you.

For example, say you’re afraid you’re not good enough to pursue a career you find fascinating. When you’re in an open and curious mindset, your insight might be that “not good enough” is simply a worn-out story from your past. You free yourself to explore ideas such as, does this fear serve me? Maybe it did when you were younger, but now you can wave goodbye to it.

Bless the fear, because it once kept you safe. Then let it go. Picture yourself tossing your fear into a river. Let the current carry it away.

2. Connect The Dots

Like Connect The Dots coloring books, your frustrations obscure a picture of what your ideal career would be.

Your task is to find the dots!

Say you notice you’re often frustrated that people with disabilities are excluded from events you attend. Perhaps you have a relative or close friend who’s disabled and you’re sensitized to their needs.

You find yourself checking buildings for wheelchair-accessible ramps and elevators, and wondering why they’re missing. When you hear news stories about a disabled person being discriminated against, you feel drawn to action on their behalf.

These are all dots you can connect: perhaps your passionate career is that of disability advocate? One of my clients with a disability had developed substantial knowledge of government support systems for the disabled. She turned her passion and expertise into a career she loves as a consultant.

3. Set Your Imagination On Fire

With the abundance of information available on the internet, you can not only research new career possibilities but you may even discover a career you love that you can do online or on the phone.

As I’ve written before, technology has allowed people to re-create their beloved career in a different way when they’re faced with physical challenges. As well, there are jobs available today that weren’t feasible in the past. You can teach English to children in China from your home. Perhaps you’re passionate about supporting others in their role – nowadays virtual assistants are commonplace.

Once you’ve shifted your perspective and connected the dots to create a beautiful picture, let your imagination run free and discover the possibilities that await you.

Unleash The Alchemist

The next time you’re sitting at your desk, chin propped on your hand, staring into space wondering where this alleged passionate career is – remember, the shape of it is there in your fears and frustrations. Yes, those same fears that are keeping you frozen in place.

Be glad for your fears. Honor your frustrations. They’re simply gold in a different form, waiting for you to transform them.

In the future, when you’re feeling blessed and loving the career you’ve discovered, you’ll smile when you think back to how you nearly missed the riches contained in your frustrations and fears that at once time seemed insurmountable. Then you’ll turn to your co-worker who’s telling you about her own anxieties and say, “Let me tell you a story about someone who turned their fear into gold.”

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about

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Can’t Find The Right Career Opportunity?

Can’t Find The Right Career Opportunity?

If Career Opportunities Are Everywhere, Why Can’t I Find Mine?

“Find out what you like doing best and get someone to pay you for doing it.” – Katherine Whitehorn

You’ve heard it so often, it surfaces in your dreams.

“Career opportunities are everywhere!”

People you know are landing their dream jobs, seemingly without effort. You want to scream. Because you just can’t seem to figure out what the right career fit would be for you.

Your first choice seems unrealistic. You discard the next set of jobs that catch your attention: wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong! Until your head swims and you can’t even begin to figure out what a right choice would be.

“Everywhere, yeah….right…,” you mumble.

Except, it’s true. Opportunities really are everywhere.

So how do you find the ones that would fit you best?

You Can Find Them, You Just Haven’t Been Told How

The advice to find what you love to do, then pursue it as a career, is right on the money. Yet unless you take some time to assess yourself, draw on your life experiences, and mine your life challenges for the treasure they contain, getting a holistic picture of what you love to do – and therefore an accurate idea of your ideal career – will be elusive.

If it’s not simply a matter of sitting yourself down for a few minutes and thinking “Yeah, this is what I really love.” Although that’s a great way to start! (And quick, write it down!)

All of the experiences throughout your life contain clues to identifying a career that’s right for you; one that speaks to your passion, in which you feel fulfilled, and that has the potential to be the one where you really do feel blessed to get paid doing what you adore.

It’s just a matter of unearthing those clues then weaving them together to create a vision of your ideal career.

When you unpack the box of expectations you grew up with, and examine insightful connections between your values, personality, strengths, dreams, and goals, you will soon begin to see a pattern formed by all the pieces of yourself. That pattern points to the career that best fits you.

The Compelling Questions Nobody Tells You To Ask

Your first step is to discover your life purpose, because doing so will help you get very clear about your goal: your ideal profession.

When you know your purpose, you can then become very deliberate about your plan to reach your goal. When you live with purpose, you become passionate about living. You are in touch with your drives, and passions; the purpose you’ve chosen keeps you focused and motivated. Creating this personal purpose is the first step in making the most of your life.

Conversely, when you act without purpose, you risk being reactive—you’re responding to events around you instead of being a proactive decision-maker, which makes it very difficult to achieve your goal.

In my book Happiness, Passion, and Purpose, I share the real-life stories of several of my clients and how they each were able to discover their deeply held life purpose. We started with a self-assessment exercise in which they asked themselves questions such as:

·               What motivates me in life?

·               What have I wanted, but never gotten, in life?

·               What energizes me? How?

·               What brings me the most joy? Why?

·               What are my biggest interests?

Like your fingerprints, the answers to these questions will be unique to you. Notice how the questions go much broader and deeper than simply asking “What do I like to do?”. They’re designed to tap into your most dearly held qualities and talents and unearth the self-knowledge we aren’t traditionally encouraged to consider in our career development.

The Statement That Will Change Your Life

Your next step is to turn this knowledge into a statement of purpose for your life. The range of possible answers is infinite, but here are some examples:

·               My purpose in life is to help people look and feel their best.

·               My purpose in life is to empower others through education.

·               My purpose in life is to care for the sick.

·               My purpose in life is to become an artist whose work moves people.

·               My purpose in life is to change laws and policies to create a better world.

Take your time with this exercise. It’s not meant to be knocked off in a couple of hours; rather, set aside some time every day for at least a few weeks, so you have the opportunity to go deep and discover what your true purpose is. Sometimes it takes a little while to move past the expectations and conditioning that were drilled into you and which may be holding you back.

You’ll Recognize The Opportunities

I often tell clients that I gain as much from coaching them as they gain from me. Helping people find solutions to their career development challenges is my personal purpose—the mission that fulfills me. But I wasn’t always aware of this profession. I went on my own journey of self-discovery, just like I encourage you to do.

Because when you start your career exploration journey, you’ll start to recognize the bounty of opportunities that truly are all around you. You’ll thrill to your discoveries as you get clearer and clearer about your life purpose, and match your purpose with an ideal career. Finally!

It all starts with you taking these first steps. You can do this by deciding right now to invest in yourself. You’re worth it!

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about

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Discover A Career That Nurtures You In Your Later Years

Discover A Career That Nurtures You In Your Later Years

Never Too Old to Live your Dream Job

Growing old is compulsory. Retirement from work is discretionary.
— Anonymous wise person

You punched in the numbers on your retirement calculator and discovered you’ll have to work until you’re 75 or risk living out of a shopping cart on the street.

Horrified, you picture yourself hunched over, toiling away all day before wearily trudging back to your home for a small dinner before falling into bed. Only to get up and do it all again the next day.

“And then I die,” you think.

But what if something that feels like a jail sentence could actually be one of the most satisfying experiences of your life?

Working Longer Could Be Extraordinarily Satisfying

Even just 20 years ago the distinction between work and retirement was sharp; the idea that you could work at something you were passionate about, for as long as you chose, was certainly not mainstream. But today you can find a plethora of opportunities to keep going at a job you love,or turn your expertise into a different version of your current career or even discover a new profession based on a passion you identified in your 50’s or 60’s.

Indeed, 70% of pre-retirees say they intend to work during their retirement years – but on their terms, which include a flexible schedule, remote working, and being able to flex between work and time off.

Many of us are going to live much longer lives – into our 80’s and beyond. Not only that, but overall we’re likely to be healthy and energetic, with a lot of expertise to share with others who could benefit from our wisdom.

Given all these opportunities, perhaps the question should be “Why wouldn’t I choose to retire later?”.

But What If I Don’t Like My Current Job?

No one is asking you to slog away into your golden years at a job you dislike!

Instead, here’s how I helped one of my clients, Brad, identify a new career after he became miserable and depressed in what he had thought would be his dream job.

Brad, a highly intelligent man, loved computer science. He thought his dream job was to be a researcher. But spending all day at a computer, with little social interaction, sent him into a depression.

Together, we did several exercises to dig deep and discover what was going on with him. One of the exercises we did was a personality evaluation, where Brad put a check mark beside traits that describe him, such as:

____           You prefer to interact with people

____           You “process” problems by talking about them with others

____           You find interruptions to be a blessing

____           You prefer working with a group to working alone

____           You prefer to read and think, rather than talk about how to solve a problem

____           You are annoyed by interruptions

____           You prefer working on tasks alone to working with groups

What we discovered is that Brad is highly extroverted and needed the social stimulation of working around people. Spending his days with mostly just a computer for company was a complete misalignment with his personality.

It wasn’t lack of ability that caused Brad to become depressed in his job; the job was simply the wrong fit for who he is. Once we discovered he was genuinely happier working with people, we were able to identify that a career as a computer consultant would be an ideal match for him and allow him to use the expertise he’d developed

Brad made the transition to consultant, and blossomed in his new career. As a bonus, consulting work is something that would be straightforward to scale and adapt as he grows older, should he want to continue with a job he loves in to his 70’s.

Discover A Career That Nurtures You In Your Later Years

Computer consulting may not be your thing, but I encourage you to take time to explore the many options available to you to make working into your 70’s joyful instead of something to dread.

And you don’t have to do this alone! Sometimes just taking the first step is frightening, but you can find excellent resources online, find a friend or family member who’s willing to support you, and brainstorm different ideas for how you can create a career in your golden years that nurtures you.

Imagine waking up full of eagerness and anticipation at what your work will bring; loving what you do so much that the idea of retirement seems laughable.

And when you do finally make the decision to stop working, it will be because you truly feel it’s time to move on. You’ll be full of gratitude for the many years of passionate work you’ve had.

Your perfect career is waiting for you.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with  ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s  and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about

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Let Go of Your Limiting Belief and Get a Career You’ll Love

Let Go of Your Limiting Belief and Get a Career You’ll Love

How To Let Go Of Limiting Beliefs That Hold You Back From A Career You’ll Love

“If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you.” ―Louise Hay

“When I grow up I’m going to trap myself into a job I hate but feel like I can’t leave.”

Said no one ever.

Except you’re haunted by the feeling maybe you really did tell yourself this. Maybe you cursed yourself. Because your job feels like a steel trap rusted shut on you.

Maybe you pursued a perfectly good profession because your family expected you to. Seemed like a good idea at the time, right?

Or you wandered into a career because it paid really well. Ok, so money can’t buy happiness but then again, neither can poverty.

The Fears That Could Keep You Stuck Forever

As much as you detest your current job, when you think about changing careers you’re flooded with fear.

What will your family say?

Shouldn’t you be content with what you have? Count your blessings and all that? So many people have it worse than you.

Or what if you don’t make as much money? You might end up homeless, eating cat food out of a can.

Your fear paralyzes you into place.

One Simple Way To Kick Your Limiting Beliefs To The Curb

But what if you could let go of those fearful beliefs and free yourself to discover a career you love?

Even though your beliefs feel so ingrained it’s as though they’ve been tattooed on your soul, I’ll show you a straightforward way to let them go.

All you need is a pen or pencil and a pad of paper, and an open mind.


Let’s go!

  1. Write down your limiting beliefs on paper. Take your time with this. Jot them down as they occur to you, until you feel like you’ve identified the main ones. It may take a week or more to get them all down on paper, and that’s fine.
  2. Honor them. Yes, this sounds odd, but at one time your beliefs kept you safe. Say aloud “Thanks for protecting me, but it’s time to let you go now.”
  3. Release them – burn the paper and imagine the smoke is carrying them away, or tear the paper into pieces and throw them into the trash.
  4. Tell your beliefs goodbye.
  5. Smile! (Because smiling releases endorphins, the brain chemicals that make you feel happy.)

You’ll probably need to repeat this exercise several times. Beliefs can be as tough to remove as a red wine stain from a white couch. So expect you won’t be done the first time – oh, and no beating yourself up for having to do this more than once.

Here’s How You’ll Feel  

When you’ve let go of your crippling beliefs, you’ll feel the lightness of relief. You’ll be eager to explore ideas that will help you discover a fulfilling new career.

You’ve freed yourself to imagine how good your life will be when you enjoy going to work. When you feel blessed every morning; full of purpose and passion. And happy to have found a meaningful profession which feeds your soul instead of sucking it dry.

Time To Let Go

You may think this sounds too good to be true.

I get it.

You’ve been bombarded with “Follow your passion to a new career!” messages that make it sound so simple to walk away, leaving you to wonder if you’d have to be an emotionless robot to pull it off.

You’re not wrong to feel skeptical.

But if you follow these steps to release your limiting beliefs, you can free yourself to not only discover a career you’ll love, but also to create a plan to get you there.

A plan that’s based on optimism instead of fear.; which respects your personal needs while steadily supporting you toward your new profession.

And when you’re free from the limitations of old beliefs, the sky’s the limit.

So get on it, would you?

Your perfect career is waiting for you.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with  ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s  and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about

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A Career Crafted from Seeds in Your Life

A Career Crafted from Seeds in Your Life

 Your Life Story Already Contains Seeds Of A Career You Will Love 

“If you’re not the hero of your talent story, you simply become a player in one you didn’t choose.”—Jay Perry 

You’re already the hero of your talent story, even if you don’t yet believe it. The story of your life holds clues to your talents and a career you’ll love. While you may see mostly challenges and maybe even failures as you look at your life, when you take time to reflect you’ll realize how abundant with career choice potential your life story is. 

Perhaps, like many of my clients, you’ve struggled with ADHD or dyslexia and the challenges they bring. The stress of such struggles often blinds you to your successes, causing you to focus solely on your weaknesses and leaving you afraid to pursue a new career.  

Or your challenge may be more of a physical nature that causes you to be uncertain about your career options. My client, Rosa, was a 71 year-old emergency room (ER) nurse who loved her work and didn’t want to retire, but she could no longer perform the rigorous physical labor her ER nursing career required. Rosa wanted help channeling her passion for nursing into something new that let her draw on her substantial experience while honoring her need for less physical rigor.  

Together, we crafted a strategy that helped her gain valuable insights into the patterns woven into her life story and discern viable options that were open to her as a highly experienced nurse.  

Discover Career Options You Never Knew Existed 

Rosa was ultimately delighted to discover the field of telemedicine, where nurses and doctors offer basic recommendations to patients on the phone or online. She now works from the comfort of her own home as a telemedicine nurse drawing on her tremendous amount of hands-on medical experience. 

Technology is but one option that allows employers to offer more flexible working arrangements and remote work positions, not only for seniors but for younger people who have physical or other disabilities that prohibit them from a more traditional position in their profession. 

So take heart. If you feel discouraged by your challenges, there are several important developments that might be the solution to a new career you’ll love. They include: 

Technological developments:Today our world is filled with new techniques, discoveries, and technologies that can give you new capabilities if you understand them. In a world of constantly evolving apps and web services, it may be possible to truly wow an employer, client, or potential employer by refreshing your knowledge and periodically looking for new tools that let you do a job you love in a different way than you originally envisioned. 

Job market evolutions: New types of jobs are constantly being created to replace or alter existing ones – perhaps including yours. Salaries  and work culture change. These all lead to demand for new skills that can give you an edge if you acquire them. 

Check out https://www.MyNextMove.org, an excellent free resource with lots of data for learning about new job market trends and projections. As you pull together all your interests, patterns, and strengths from your life story, you will be able to discern a career you’ll love and then seek out resources that will help you assess how your skills and knowledge measure up to those of your target career field. Being able to tell employers that you’re current on the latest techniques and technology, or that you have a skill that can give them a competitive edge, is a definite asset on résumés, cover letters, and in interviews. 

Government policy changes: For example, Rosa discovered that while telemedicine positions were quite rare ten years ago, with rising costs of healthcare and stricter government requirements which compel insurance companies to offer more to their customers, many insurance companies now hire nurses to speak with customers by phone to provide more cost-effective and accessible health and medical advice. You too may discover a policy change that benefits you in your particular choice of career. 

For more information about resources – and to be notified when my book Happiness, Passion, and Purpose is available – you can join my email list here. 

Claim Your Role As Your Life Hero 

Take time to reflect on your own life story. Find a quiet place to sit with a pen and notebook, and write your story. You can do this in several sessions over a period of time.  

What patterns do you notice? What opportunities can you find to reframe something you’ve believed is negative into a positive? What strengths and interests have you developed from your history? 

You’re in charge of telling your unique story in a way that best serves you. Many of us criticize ourselves relentlessly for the choices we’ve made and the paths we’ve taken. But if you could tell your story any way you want, free from the opinions of other people, what would you choose to tell? Claim your role as hero of your own talent story, and find out. 

Limiting Beliefs Keeping You from Your Dream Career?

Limiting Beliefs Keeping You from Your Dream Career?

How Fear Of Failure Keeps Us From Pursuing The Career We Were Meant To Do

“Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space. Invite one to stay.” -Maya Angelou

When you fear failure, you paralyze yourself into a career that’s not right for you. And a career that is a bad fit permeates into your efforts and job performance. You may refrain from speaking up to demonstrate leadership skills because you don’t want to rock the boat and maybe lose your job; or, in your situational-induced restlessness, routine tasks seem insurmountable. The effort of trying to conform yourself into a badly fitting job wears you out.

Deep down you may already know what the right career is for you, but you’ve convinced yourself it’s beyond your grasp because the thought of possibly not getting what you want is just too painful or out of reach. Instead, you drift along feeling unfulfilled, unmotivated, and uninspired; going through the motions every day, trying to convince yourself it’s not so bad. But it is so bad, and I want better for you! I want you to come alive each morning, eager to get to your job, excited to see what the day brings, then returning home feeling satisfied with your accomplishments.

Move Past The Fear To Your Dream Career

If this sounds impossible, take heart.

Some of my clients who had locked themselves into a profession that was wrong for them found the courage to break free. They found a career that spoke to their passion and strengths, and they are thriving. You can too, even if you don’t yet know what that perfect career is. 

The first step is for you to acknowledge the fear that’s holding you back, because until you acknowledge it you can’t let it go. Many of us have been taught to either bury our fear and pretend it doesn’t exist, or to bluster our way past it. Neither of these support you to liberate yourself from a poor situation.

You need not feel ashamed about your fear of failure, which often comes about because of past failures we’ve either experienced or observed. As Thomas Edison said when he invented the light bulb after many experiments, “I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” 

You likely have found ways that won’t work –we all have. What’s important is that you are able to move past any self-judgment to find the lessons. Ask yourself what you’ve learned from past experiences. How you would make different choices if you faced the same situation in the future? These experiences contain the seeds of a strategy you can follow to pursue the career you were meant to have.

There Is No Shame In Your Fear

There is no shame in letting your fear hold you back from a career that you’ll love. I encourage you to have compassion for yourself. Fear comes about because we see our past choices in a negative way that makes us limit ourselves out of a belief we can escape future pain. You did the best you could at the time; you made the choices you believed were right. Since you can’t change the past, why not ask yourself what you can do different in the future? Often we fear failure and don’t take action because we expect others to judge us and find us lacking. 

We worry we’ll lose their respect. Since by nature we’re social creatures who don’t want to lose other’s approval, the thought of being judged is particularly painful. Nonetheless, I encourage you to release the need for approval that keeps you stuck. 

Be Inspired By Others

Next, let yourself be inspired by people who have overcome their fear of failure and are highly successful in their chosen field. Examples that come to mind are author Stephen King, Microsoft founder Bill Gates, and the singer/dancer/actress Beyonce. Their stories are freely available online.

But your inspiration doesn’t have to come from famous millionaires and billionaires. If you personally know someone who overcame their fear, I encourage you to find out how they did so. Ask if they would share their insights and suggestions, or if they would be willing to meet with you to support you. 

A person who believes in you and encourages you is a godsend, especially for the times you feel down and discouraged and just want to give up. 

Invite Hope

Even a a few minutes of well-timed support can make the difference between hope and fear. And as Maya Angelou said, both can’t occupy the same space. So, invite hope to stay with you. Tell the fear of failure to get lost. You’ve got better things to do. You’ve got a wonderful career to pursue!

My book ,Happiness, Passion, and Purpose, will be available soon. I’ve filled it with practical exercises to help you identify a career you will love